The Open Relationship Roadmap
Experience a depth of connection that most couples simply haven’t engineered yet.
The Open Relationship Roadmap
Experience a depth of connection that most couples simply haven’t engineered yet.
Non-Monogamy by Design.
When my husband and I first opened our relationship, we were flying blind. We spent years figuring out the boundaries, the triggers, and the triumphs through trial and error. I built this Relationship Roadmap because it’s the tool we wish we’d had at the start of opening our relationship—a structured guide to prompt the deep thinking and honest conversations that keep a partnership thriving while it grows.
Opening up shouldn’t feel like walking through a minefield without a map. After 12 years of partnership—nine of those navigating Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)—I’ve learned that the right conversations change everything.
But before we dive into the logistics, I want to be clear about one thing: You are not a “bad” person for wanting this, and this choice is not a sign that you don’t love your partner. In fact, it’s the opposite. Opening a relationship isn’t a fix for a weak foundation; it is a choice made from a strong one. It requires the kind of profound love that is brave enough to expand. This journey demands deep self-reflection, the courage to hold tough conversations, and a resilient sense of self.
If navigated with intention and safety, this process won’t just introduce you to new people—it will lead to a deeper, more resonant connection with your primary partner and, most importantly, with yourself. You aren’t just opening your relationship; you are expanding your capacity for intimacy.
My Journey
12+ Years of Partnership.
9+ Years of Intentional Openness.
One Proven Framework.
The Foundation
My name is Jessica Amen, and my husband and I have been together for over twelve years. Over a decade of building a life, a home, and a shared history. But nine years ago, we chose to evolve. We decided to transition our relationship into Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)—and while we knew we had the love to do it, we quickly realized we didn’t have the map.
The Missing Piece
In those early years, our growth was reactive rather than intentional. Without a clear framework, we were forced to navigate complex emotions only after they became crises. We realized that while love provided the foundation, it didn’t provide the logistics. We didn’t need more abstract advice; we needed a repeatable system to manage the “operational” reality of an open life.
Designing Beyond the Default
For most of us, monogamy wasn’t a choice we made; it was the “default setting” we inherited. But when you look at the history of the modern relationship, you realize that the rigid, lifelong monogamous model we recognize today is a relatively recent social and economic invention—one designed more for land ownership and lineage than for long-term emotional fulfillment.
We are living in the first era of human history where we get to ask: Does this structure actually serve my partnership?
The Shift from Legacy to Intent
When my husband and I decided to open our relationship nine years ago, we weren’t just changing the “rules.” We were stepping away from a legacy system that didn’t account for our growth as individuals.
The “Roadmap” isn’t about being anti-monogamy; it’s about being pro-intent. It’s about taking the tools of modern communication to dismantle the “shoulds” and replace them with a structure that actually holds the weight of your real life.
The Producer’s Perspective
As a digital and film producer with over 20 years of experience, my career has been defined by taking complex, high-stakes visions and turning them into organized, successful realities. I realized that thriving in an open relationship requires that same level of “production”: clear communication, solid infrastructure, and a shared roadmap.
The Mission (The "Who I Help")
I created the Relationship Roadmap for the couple we used to be. I’m here to help you skip the “guessing” phase. By combining a decade of lived ENM experience with the high-efficiency systems I’ve used in professional production, I provide a clear, step-by-step curriculum for couples ready to design their own rules.
I don’t believe in one-size-fits-all relationships. I believe in helping you build the communication engine that allows your specific partnership to flourish, no matter how you choose to define it.
My Journey
12+ Years of Partnership.
9+ Years of Intentional Openness.
One Proven Framework.
The Foundation
My name is Jessica Amen, and my husband and I have been together for over twelve years. Over a decade of building a life, a home, and a shared history. But nine years ago, we chose to evolve. We decided to transition our relationship into Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)—and while we knew we had the love to do it, we quickly realized we didn’t have the map.
The Missing Piece
In those early years, our growth was reactive rather than intentional. Without a clear framework, we were forced to navigate complex emotions only after they became crises. We realized that while love provided the foundation, it didn’t provide the logistics. We didn’t need more abstract advice; we needed a repeatable system to manage the “operational” reality of an open life.
Designing Beyond the Default
For most of us, monogamy wasn’t a choice we made; it was the “default setting” we inherited. But when you look at the history of the modern relationship, you realize that the rigid, lifelong monogamous model we recognize today is a relatively recent social and economic invention—one designed more for land ownership and lineage than for long-term emotional fulfillment.
We are living in the first era of human history where we get to ask: Does this structure actually serve my partnership?
The Shift from Legacy to Intent
When my husband and I decided to open our relationship nine years ago, we weren’t just changing the “rules.” We were stepping away from a legacy system that didn’t account for our growth as individuals.
The “Roadmap” isn’t about being anti-monogamy; it’s about being pro-intent. It’s about taking the tools of modern communication to dismantle the “shoulds” and replace them with a structure that actually holds the weight of your real life.
The Producer’s Perspective
As a digital and film producer with over 20 years of experience, my career has been defined by taking complex, high-stakes visions and turning them into organized, successful realities. I realized that thriving in an open relationship requires that same level of “production”: clear communication, solid infrastructure, and a shared roadmap.
The Mission (The "Who I Help")
I created the Relationship Roadmap for the couple we used to be. I’m here to help you skip the “guessing” phase. By combining a decade of lived ENM experience with the high-efficiency systems I’ve used in professional production, I provide a clear, step-by-step curriculum for couples ready to design their own rules.
I don’t believe in one-size-fits-all relationships. I believe in helping you build the communication engine that allows your specific partnership to flourish, no matter how you choose to define it.
12+ Years: Partnered
9+ Years: Living and thriving in an ENM relationship
20+ Years: Leading creative teams and large-scale productions
The Goal: To give you the tools I wish I’d had at the start of our journey
The Relationship Roadmap
12 Weeks to a Custom-Built Partnership.
The Relationship Roadmap
12 Weeks to a Custom-Built Partnership.
A three-month digital intensive designed to replace the “monogamy default” with intentional design.
The 3-Month Curriculum
Month 1: Foundation & Deconstruction
- Week 1: Auditing the Monogamy Default.
- Week 2: Identifying Core Values vs. Inherited Beliefs.
- Week 3: Establishing the “Sacred Core” of your partnership.
- Week 4: The Communication Engine: Radical Clarity.
Month 2: Infrastructure & Boundaries
- Week 5: Defining Boundaries vs. Rules.
- Week 6: The Boundary Blueprint: Building your living agreement.
- Week 7: Sexual Health, Safety, and Logistics.
- Week 8: The Social Circle: Managing community and privacy.
Month 3: Resilience & Iteration
- Week 9: The Jealousy Protocol: Processing data over drama.
- Week 10: Trigger Mapping & Self-Soothing Frameworks.
- Week 11: Sustaining Momentum: Preventing the “Open Drift.”
- Week 12: The Weekly Sync: Establishing your long-term maintenance system.
choose a
Coaching Plan
Option 1: The Self-Guided Roadmap
Perfect for couples who want the tools and the framework to work through at their own pace.
Full 12 Week Curriculum
Weekly video lessons and strategy sessions.
12 Interactive Workbooks
Weekly PDF downloads with guided prompts and exercises.
Bonus Content Library
Advanced deep-dives into specific ENM challenges.
My Recommendations
In depth resource guide for additional learning through reading, listening and in-person events.
$495
Option 2: The Collaborative Roadmap
Designed for those who want the framework plus the benefit of group perspective and live guidance.
Option 1 Plus
All items listed from option 1 and the following.
The Community Chat
Lifetime access to a private space for peer support.
Group Video Sessions
One 'Topic of The Month' group video session with me, per month.
$2495
Option 3: The Bespoke Roadmap
The highest level of support. A 1:1 partnership to architect your specific relationship structure.
Options 1 & 2 Plus
All items listed from options 1, 2 and the following.
One on One Chat
Personalized access to one on one chat to help guide you through each week.
One on One Video Sessions
One thirty-minute, one on one video session with me, per month.
$4995
choose a
Coaching Plan
Option 1: The Self-Guided Roadmap
Perfect for couples who want the tools and the framework to work through at their own pace.
Full 12 Week Curriculum
Weekly video lessons and strategy sessions.
12 Interactive Workbooks
Weekly PDF downloads with guided prompts and exercises.
Bonus Content Library
Advanced deep-dives into specific ENM challenges.
My Recommendations
In depth resource guide for additional learning through reading, listening and in-person events.
$495
Option 2: The Collaborative Roadmap
Designed for those who want the framework plus the benefit of group perspective and live guidance.
Option 1 Plus
All items listed from option 1 and the following.
The Community Chat
Lifetime access to a private space for peer support.
Group Video Sessions
One 'Topic of The Month' group video session with me, per month.
$2495
Option 3: The Bespoke Roadmap
The highest level of support. A 1:1 partnership to architect your specific relationship structure.
Options 1 & 2 Plus
All items listed from options 1, 2 and the following.
One on One Chat
Personalized access to one on one chat to help guide you through each week.
One on One Video Sessions
One thirty-minute, one on one video session with me, per month.
$4995
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